— My new friend Brett, regarding his MK8 abilities
— My brother Dallin
Okay but I’m cracking up at the log line for the Lego Batman special:
Batman prides himself on being a loner, a totally self-sufficient one-man-band. Just ask anyone; Batgirl, Robin, Nightwing, Alfred… anyone.
Math 110 is difficult enough for me without it being also an early-ish morning class. So far I have been consistently present and taking notes, but usually I am also very sleepy and doze-y, and it can make both of those things ineffective.
On Sunday I was doing the homework for Math 110 and I got to a point where I forgot what I was supposed to do. And so I try to go back through my notes and the page with that concept was just completely illegible. Big letters, bunched up letters, letters curving and meeting in ways they just shouldn’t. I have terrible handwriting on a good day and this was just like wow what did I even write.
I noticed in the margins that I wrote something in smaller, more legible writing. I have no idea what the hell made me write it. It said:
Ants in occupation
While walking home I think I found how to word the advice I would give to teenagers struggling with feelings of rejection/unrequited love/etc.
Since these things are both painful to go through and also have a tendency to bring out long-term ugliness in people.
I’m having some difficulty remembering how I worded it while talking to myself on the bike trail so forgive me it if it comes off disorganized:
When the feelings you have for someone are very intense it can be easy to get caught up in that feeling, and project all kinds of fantasies onto that person. It’s important to remember that they are not responsible for fulfilling or satisfying this feeling. When you are experiencing this feeling you are not in the actual world, and the person you are projecting those feelings on is not inside the world you’re experiencing. It’s possible they’re not interested in being inside the world you’re experiencing. This is okay. It isn’t mean. It just means there’s a door you’ve placed there and they don’t want to enter. Respect that and if you’re lucky maybe they’ll be willing to enter a different kind of door with you. Not the one you originally imagined but one that’s best for you, them, and everyone else around you.
Don’t. Push. Your. Desires. Be respectful and exercise self-restraint.
You need to be able to see the other person removed from yourself. You need to realize that this person has value with or without you. It can be hard, but try to repeat it to yourself. "They have value, with or without me." After you realize this, you can be grateful for whatever amount of you they want in their life. Whether that be a close friendship, or just a distant, respectable fondness, or whatever else. You’ll know they’re just as valuable a person without you, so you’ll be grateful for however much they’re with you, and in whatever manner.
And even if they don’t want you in their lives at all, you’ll be able to respect that they are still a valuable person regardless.
It can be difficult (because emotions aren’t rational), but over time this kind of disposition will get progressively easier to adopt, and you’ll be a better person as a result. Keep trying.